You are a single adult with a world full of possibilities open to you! You might still be in your late teens, soon to complete college or you might have completed your education and started working. You might be feeling such a jumble of emotions right now- excitement and happiness about being independent, fear about the unknown future and the new responsibilities you have to take on or loneliness because you are on your own and not in a relationship. All these feelings are part of the transition from adolescence to adulthood are are a natural part of becoming a mature individual in charge of your own life.
The most important tasks you need to achieve in this stage for your wellbeing are:
- Achieving your own identity, separate from that of your family
- Choosing an occupation to engage in
- Becoming independent, emotionally and financially
- Choosing a life partner
An individual who has been able to achieve a stable, independent identity is able to become healthy personal and professional choices which promote his/her well-being. An individual who is unable to do so often makes life choices either acceding to the family wishes or rebelling against them. Being able to choose an occupation which gives you satisfaction also depends on what basis your choice has been made-on the basis of your own interests and abilities or on the basis of what your family or wellwishers say. Similarly, the ability to choose a partner and enter a healthy committed relationship depends on your level of emotional maturity and separation from the family's emotional process.
Questions/ Struggles you may experience as a Single Adult
- Can I really look after myself?
- How do I find the right job for me?
- Am I capable of finding a good job?
- My job doesn’t make me happy
- I have issues with my co-workers
- I can’t handle all these responsibilities
- I don’t want to enter the profession my family wants me to
- Did I choose the right profession?
- Do my parents know what is good for me better than I do?
- I feel so lonely without someone to love me
- Why have I not found the right person for me yet?
- Should I commit to the person I am with?
- Should I get married?
- My relationships never work out
- I cant open up to another person
- I am scared to enter a relationship
If you are struggling to find the right career or have problems with your job or if you are experiencing difficulties in relationships or in choosing a partner, you can get the help of trained counsellors at New Directions who will work with you to help you with your fears.
New Directions provides individual counselling services where you can come by yourself and discuss your issues with a trained professional. We also provide couples counselling and family counselling services where you can come together as a couple or a family to discuss your relationship with a trained professional.