It’s true that a child needs pampering in his growth years to ensure
proper growth and development of his senses and mind. But that pampering should
be in such a limit that neither does it spoil your child, nor leaves him
feeling devoid of love and importance.
There is a keen, but still noticeable difference between pampering
your children and over-pampering them. While pampering makes the child feel
loved and important along with developing his mind, over-pampering can
completely spoil your child and make him stubborn, irritable and disobedient.
As parents, we want to facilitate our children with everything they
need in their lives. We want to fill their days with all the happiness and
comfort they can get. But all this is only good to think of. Come to the
practical life and all these actions would do is spoil the child.
Giving your child unnecessary gifts and too much attention is what
we can call spoiling. A child should be given the needed attention only. Gifts
on particular occasions and achievements can act as a good motivator. But once
you do such stuff in excess, your children forget the importance of these kind
acts and it all becomes cliché for them.
Here we are listing 4 major drawbacks of over-pampering a child.
Stubborn and Irritable
turns your child into a stubborn kid who doesn’t listen to anyone easily and
gets irritated real quick. Such kid would get irritated on even the slightest
of the things, for e.g., when you ask something of them or deny them on a
matter. They have got so much of everything that they no longer know how a
thing is earned.
Disobedience: Giving your kid unnecessary and
unasked wonders would make them upset whenever they are denied by someone. They
become so habitual of getting their demands easily fulfilled that whenever they
are denied for something, they’d throw a million tantrums to get their thing
done. Eventually they’d turn into disobedient being who is selfish enough to be
bothered by their own sole wishes.
and Inappropriate Social Sense: Over-pampered kids become emotionally unstable whenever the love
they are habitual of disappears due to any reason. They are not wise enough to
take their own decisions and lack the sense required to deal with the society. They
are used to getting the luxuries and privileges so easily at home that they
find it difficult to adjust outside.
Lack of Life Skills: Over-pampering can lead to a child’s
underdevelopment in the skills that are needed to tackle the various
circumstances of life. These kids are left completely awestruck when they face
loneliness or lack of attention. Such kids have lived a life so comfortable
that they’d fight with you the moment you ask them to do a tough task.
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